First, find an evening when the two of you will have some time completely alone. Turn off the phones, TV, etc. and have a conversation over a quiet meal about where each of you sees the relationship in the next three years. Don’t judge each other’s answers and don’t perceive his to be engraved in stone. Just listen and remember why you’re doing this exercise: you love one another!
After your meal, go into the living room. Each of you gets a tablet of paper and a pencil.
(You’ll want to use a pencil because there will be several thoughts that will need “fine tuning” later on.)
Each one of you will write down your greatest fears in regards to life and relationships. Then you will write what each of you percieves what your partner thinks about you: your body, your mind, your financial goals, etc.
Spend some time working on your answers. Then, after both of you have finished, exchange papers. Read the answers with as little prejudice as possible. You’re going to learn a great deal about one another this way! And remember: read without prejudice! Check the ego at the door and really hear one another!
Now… really talk to one another. open your heart and let it lead the discussion. .
After your meal, go into the living room. Each of you gets a tablet of paper and a pencil.
(You’ll want to use a pencil because there will be several thoughts that will need “fine tuning” later on.)
Each one of you will write down your greatest fears in regards to life and relationships. Then you will write what each of you percieves what your partner thinks about you: your body, your mind, your financial goals, etc.
Spend some time working on your answers. Then, after both of you have finished, exchange papers. Read the answers with as little prejudice as possible. You’re going to learn a great deal about one another this way! And remember: read without prejudice! Check the ego at the door and really hear one another!
Now… really talk to one another. open your heart and let it lead the discussion. .